Oral, anal, vaginal, oh my God, how many of you! What, how, why, why – dealt with here.
Eh, but even relatively recently (by the way, really recently, some fifty years ago), a couple in bed was only required to directly penetrate each other's genitals, and not all these twists.
However, now more and more different ways of making love are spreading, and all of them are good in their own way. Below you will read in order: what is oral sex, how it happens, how to make it enjoyable for both parties, and what you need to know about it in general.
What is oral sex?
The name comes from the Latin word oral, that is, mouth. Oral sex is the stimulation of the partner's genitals with the help of the mouth: kissing, licking, sucking, biting and everything that both partners can think of.
Oral sex can be divided into blowjob and cunnilingus.
Blow job (or – there is such a touching old-fashioned name – “love in French”) – this is when a man caresses a cock with his mouth.
Cunnilingus is when a woman's clitoris, vagina and vagina are caressed with the mouth.
Anilingus or rimming can also be considered oral sex – this is when the anus is caressed with the mouth.
What you need to know about safety ?
Regardless of the type of oral sex, the safety rules are as follows:
- Do not have oral sex if one of the partners has any damage around the mouth and in the mouth itself, damage to the genitals or anus (irritations, cuts), cold sores on the lips, any problems with the throat or mouth.
Also, do not have oral sex if the person who will be in an active position has recently visited the dentist.
- During oral sex, you can become infected with sexually transmitted diseases (and not only through sperm, but also through lubricant, which a person who takes an active position will inevitably lick off). Therefore, it is advisable to use a condom if it is a blowjob, or latex wipes if it is cunnilingus or analingus.
- Do not brush your teeth immediately before you have oral sex, because particles can remain in your mouth toothpaste, and a toothbrush can damage your gums, creating an increased risk of infection.
- Don't swallow or take your partner's cum into your mouth if you don't confidence that he is not ill.
- Before any oral contact, the genitals, mouth and hands of both partners must be clean. If cunnilingus or analingus is planned, it is better to cut your nails (neatly, not to sharp edges). A condom is also put on sex toys, because dust particles from the surface of the toy can get on the genitals.
- Cunnilingus during menstruation is quite acceptable if partners do not interfere with other aspects (squeamishness or pain during menstruation). However, latex pads are required during menstruation because menstrual blood may contain harmful bacteria.
What you need to know about cunnilingus?
- About the sight and smell.
Like men's penises, women's vaginas are unique. Each one looks different and doesn't necessarily fit the pornographic standard. It happens, for example, that the labia minora protrude above the large ones, the labia may have a different shape, their color may be darker than the rest of the skin on the body. This is absolutely normal.
About the smell. A healthy, clean vagina won't smell bad. The smell will be slightly salty, nothing more. Before cunnilingus, it is enough to simply wash the outside of the vagina, there is absolutely no need to wash the inside (especially with soap – this is dangerous for the vaginal microflora).
Should you shave your hair? More likely no than yes. The fact is that when shaving, the skin is likely to be damaged and irritated, which means that the risk of infection will increase, and simply touching irritated skin will be unpleasant. Therefore, if you shave, then a couple of days before the planned oral sex, so that the skin has time to heal a little. For convenience, it is enough to shorten the hair with a trimmer.
- Where to caress?
The main center of female pleasure is the clitoris. More than eight thousand nerve endings are focused on it, and even a woman experiences pleasure from stimulation inside the vagina because the internal parts of the clitoris are stimulated – its legs.
How to find the clitoris: it is located where the inner labia are connected, upstairs. It is necessary to part the outer labia (folds of flesh that protect the entrance to the vagina) and find the hood at the top, under which is the clitoris.
It looks like a small tubercle about the size of a pea (all women individually, some have an enlarged clitoris). When aroused, the clitoris swells and peeks out more from under the hood, like the head of a man's penis from under the foreskin.
There are also rumors about the G-spot, supposedly another sensitive spot in a girl's vagina. It is located inside the vagina, on its upper wall, at a depth of about five centimeters. Feels like a slightly ribbed bean. You can stimulate it with your fingers: they need to be placed inside, with the pads up, and slightly bent with the “come here” gesture.
However, only 40% of women noted that they experience pleasure from such stimulation, the rest either do not find this point at all, or they do not like to stimulate it.
- How to caress?
First of all: you need to focus on the clitoris, but you don't need to go down and immediately pounce on it. Start with hugs and kisses. Slowly get down, stroke and kiss every part of the partner's body. Give compliments, the girl will be very pleased, because many girls have complexes about their appearance.
Going downstairs, continue to tease: press your lips to the vagina through the fabric of the linen and exhale hot air, stroke the inside of the thigh. When you get to the clitoris, start with light and gentle tongue touches.
Experiment with touching, because every girl likes different things. You can start with kissing, then try to lightly suck on the clitoris, slide the tip of the tongue over it, outlining a circle, and then change the tip of the tongue to a wide, soft, relaxed tongue.
Biting the clitoris is definitely not worth it. Focus on penetration too: there are almost no nerve endings inside the vagina. But adding fingers or a sex toy to the tongue is a sound idea.
What you need to know about blowjobs?
- Plan your orgasm
It is better to think in advance how to behave when the partner comes and agree on this with him, because an awkward situation can arise, for example, if the girl is disgusted with swallowing and she does not know what to do with the sperm that stained her mouth.
So, it’s better to decide in advance whether you are ready to take sperm in your mouth or swallow it and inform your partner about it so that he can warn you about an impending orgasm, so that the girl can either step back and continue caressing with her hands, or vice versa take the penis in her mouth. Whether to swallow sperm is a purely personal matter for a girl, here no one has the right to challenge her decisions regarding her level of disgust.
- Where and how to caress?
Blowjob is a little more difficult than cunnilingus because the head of the penis is less sensitive than the clitoris, so you will most likely need to attack in several ways at once to bring your partner to climax.
It is better to focus the movements of the tongue on the head, she is the most sensitive. The foreskin and frenulum (where the glans joins the penis) are also sensitive.
At this time, you should caress the trunk with your hands: move your palm up and down, while you can slightly turn your palm in a circle to enhance the sensations. If desired, the partner's testicles, scrotum, or inner thigh can also be stimulated. All these parts are less sensitive than the glans, so more intense stimulation is allowed.
- Lubrication
Saliva and the natural lubrication of the penis will not be enough, so it is better to use external lubrication so that caress is more pleasant for a man and more convenient for a girl. Lubricant is best used on a water basis – it mimics natural and does not destroy the material of the condom.
- “Deep Throat”
In fact, this is an optional element of the program, because the most sensitive area of u200bu200bthe penis is the head, you can quite bring the guy to orgasm without taking the penis in your mouth at all. “Deep throat” – that is, taking a member into the mouth as deep as possible so that it reaches the throat – rather, just an erotic fantasy, there is a clear element of dominance and submission. Therefore, doing it is completely optional, it depends only on the desire of the girl.
If the desire is present, then first of all you need to work on the gag reflex, learn to ignore it, restrain it. For example, you can run a toothbrush along the back of your throat, waiting up to ten seconds without removing the brush, so that the gag reflex disappears. Later, you can replace the brush with a larger object, such as a dildo.
- Desire
Don't blowjob if you don't want to. In addition to the fact that this is, in principle, exclusively your business, a man will also not be pleased that you are doing this with a face “would rather finish it.”
What you need to know about analingus?
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If blowjob and cunnilingus are already more or less familiar to the vast majority, then analingus has not gained such popularity, because it is directly connected with the intestines and the place with which a person gets rid of feces. Therefore, before trying analingus, it is necessary to discuss this with a partner (however, this applies to any form of sexual activity).
An important point: analingus does not mean carte blanche for all other ways of interacting with the partner's anus. For example, analingus does not mean consent to penetration. Anal sex is quite painful for the receiver, requiring preparation, so without permission to take and “enter from the back door” is very rude and wrong.
- Hygiene
In general, the fear of feeling something with your tongue and lips that you would not really want to feel during analingus is rather irrational, because if a person does not need to defecate right now, the feces are too high in the intestines to reach with the tongue.
Therefore, the main thing in hygiene is to clean the anus. Wash yourself thoroughly, you can use mild soap, it is advisable to shave or rinse the hair around the anus thoroughly, as particles of feces can get stuck there.
An enema is used if you decide to do analingus spontaneously, and a person needs to clean the full intestine. In other cases, the enema is more for psychological calming.
- Safety
You can not engage in analingus if the receiving partner has any problems with the intestines: gases, constipation, diarrhea. This means that there may be harmful bacteria in the anus, which, once in the partner's mouth, can already harm his body.
- Relaxation and gradualness
Since the anus is not a sexual organ, plus it is closely connected with the intestines and therefore can cause disgust, it will be useful if the partners relax and become aroused enough before rimming. It is helpful if the receiving partner experiences an orgasm – this will allow blood to rush to the genitals and anus and relax more. Go down to the anus slowly, gently, move slowly, letting your partner get used to it.
- How to caress?
Caress with a relaxed tongue, around the anus, slowly, leisurely. Experiment with touches, their intensity and sequence, focusing on the partner's reaction. It is important that ending only from caressing the anus is unlikely to succeed: this is not a sexual organ, so along with analingus, you need to stroke and stimulate the partner's genitals (you can use a sex toy).
Speaking of them.
- Sex toys
For analingus or anal masturbation, only anal sex toys are used, because regular ones intended for the vagina do not have a thickening near the base, so they can fall too far deep into the anus.
It is also important not to use the same sex toy and the same condom for anal and vaginal intercourse or petting, because bacteria from one area can transfer to another and lead to infection.
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