The collar is the most famous and widespread fetish, attribute and device in BDSM practice. The delicate female neck is shackled in leather and steel as a symbol of submission and possession. A neck collar for a girl can be not only part of the role behavior of the dominant and submissive. It can be a stylish addition to your everyday look and it does not always mean belonging to the BDSM culture.
Both a sign of a slave and a symbol of power
It is generally accepted that the collar for a person was invented during the time of the slave system. He dressed as slaves and equated those in slavery with animals (for which collars were originally invented). He helped to restrict freedom of movement, if required, was a humiliating mark by which free citizens immediately recognized a person who was in slavery. A special tag was worn on the collars of slaves, which indicated the name of the owner.
The same tag indicated the punishment for stealing a slave or helping him escape. Slave owners in ancient Rome and Greece quickly abandoned the use of slave collars. The explanation is simple – there were more slaves than free people. Slaves visited public places and could see that there were more of them than their masters. This could lead to the unification of slaves and the beginning of a riot.
However, a collar on a person did not always denote slaves. In ancient Egypt and the Mayan tribe, an ornament made of metal, stone, and bone was worn around the neck. It tightly covered the throat, served to protect against attacks by animals or other people, and was used only by representatives of the upper class.
Decorations in the form of ribbons and strings of beads tightly wrapped around the neck were often used by noble ladies, but closer to the 20th century, such jewelry became popular among women of “lightened social responsibility” (kept women, prostitutes, courtesans).
A little later, in the wake of punk culture, collar necklaces returned to fashion. The founder of punk fashion, Vivienne Westwood, dreamed that this accessory would become popular again for a large number of people. But her collars were created under the influence of BDSM experiments, which confused ordinary people very much
In the early 90s, jewelry around the neck in the form of a ribbon or a thin rim became quite popular. Such an accessory is called a choker (from the English “strangler”) and the attitude towards it changes depending on the worldview of a certain person. Some see it as a direct link to the BDSM collar — culture and is called a “black belt in throat blowjob”.
Those familiar with the history of such jewelry believe that this is an elegant way to emphasize the whiteness of the skin and the beauty of the neck. In any case, he leaves few people indifferent and draws attention to the one who wears it.
The recent return of chokers to the fashion catwalk allows girls to use collars as decoration in everyday life.
Choosing a collar for a slave: purpose, selection rules and popular options
In BDSM practice, a choker should not be confused with a collar. First — is used only as a decorative element, and the second has a practical use, but due to the design it can play the role of a necklace. When choosing a choker, it is enough to pay attention to the harmonious combination of this accessory with the rest of the outfit. When choosing a collar, there are other criteria besides beauty.
A collar around the neck for girls in BDSM is used for different purposes:
- To indicate the belonging of a slave to her master, as well as to create the necessary psychological mood: a feeling of “shackled »for the bottom and a sense of possession for the Master.
- To restrict movement or as a way to control the slave (direct her leash where the owner needs or pull her up in case of disobedience).
Depending on the purpose of use, the type of this accessory is determined. You need to understand right away that products for animals are not suitable for people. Firstly, it is difficult to find suitable sizes, and secondly, the materials are rougher, and the design is neither beautiful nor graceful.
When choosing a collar for a girl – a slave, the preferences and tastes of the dominant are in the first place: do you like the design and how well the device will look on the lower neck. Even if you like something from the assortment offered by specialized stores, do not rush to buy. Any collar is first tried on by the one for which it is intended. It should not be too tight or dangle around the neck. If the bottom is supposed to wear it daily, then the weight of the product should not be too large.
The materials used to make the accessory must be of high quality. Typically, BDSM collars are made of two layers: the top layer can be made of rough leather or metal, and the bottom one can be soft leather, suede, etc.
You should pay attention to the little things. Fasteners must be distinguished by quality and reliability, notches are not allowed on metal elements, the stitches must be even and the threads must not be knocked out of the stitch. The lock, if there is one on the collar, must be checked: the key must fit, and the lock must not jam or fall apart from repeated opening and closing.
If the choice is made of metal, it is advisable not to take products made of aluminum or with any external coating. Aluminum stains leather gray, and the coating often cracks and begins to crumble on contact with the skin. The best choice is stainless steel products.
There are several popular neck collar options for girls:
- Classic leather. It is usually quite wide and strong, has a secure clasp and can be used to hold the submissive in place or restrict his movement. Often leather models are decorated with rivets or a pendant with the owner's name. Rings or carabiners can be attached to it to secure the leash. The model without decorations, signs of the owner and fastenings is allowed to be used as an everyday decoration.
- Simple metal. It happens in the form of a steel hoop, a thin rim or a chain. Often metal collars are supplied with a lock. Thin metal collars are used as everyday decoration, as a symbol of power over a slave, but it is not recommended to use them for fixation or control.
- Studded collars (leather and metal) – usually used as a fetish or punishment (for example, for sleep deprivation). Sometimes it is mistakenly believed that a collar with spikes is a sign of the top. Most BDSM adherents are sure that such a product has no place on the owner's neck. An exception can only be if it is jewelry. However, in this matter, there are also categorical opponents of the collar on the top, even if it is studded with precious stones.
A complicated simple collar: safety rules
It is important for a dominant to remember that a collar is not at all such a harmless device as it might seem. Its very location on a person is quite risky, and improper use is fraught with damage to the throat or even death.
Thin models cannot be used to fix or control the submissive. For these purposes, it is better to choose wide leather collars with a soft lining. It is allowed to use wide metal collars for fixation, but it is better not to use them for training and controlling a slave.
It is allowed to fix the lower one when the help of a leash to a hook (crossbar) higher than human height, but only if he has support under his feet and the owner does not leave him unattended for a minute.
It is important to remember that the collar is not designed for hanging games. For these purposes, there are other devices in BDSM.
Lux Fetish collar — Collar with long leash
